She’s Just Not That Into Your Blog
EDITOR’S NOTE: Today we have a guest post from Sid Savara, who discusses personal development and personal productivity at SidSavara.com
Note: Don’t take this too seriously, and ladies – I’m not leaving you out, but aren’t you tired of hearing “He’s Just Not Into You”?
Guys, listen up. For too long you have been pushed around with false hopes and false promises. I’m here to give you a quick dose of reality, and let you know sometimes, things aren’t going to work out, and maybe She’s Just Not That Into Your Blog.
Here are five of the most common signs. If you come across one of these, take a deep breath, suck it up and accept that sometimes things just aren’t meant to be – this time around.
“I Like It, But Sometimes I Don’t Notice Your Blog In My Reader…”
No. This is never true. There’s no excuse for not seeing your blog in a reader. I have hundreds RSS feeds, but do you think I miss one episode of Blogopolis Blueprint? Do you think there is a single article onMotivate Thyself or Writer Dad I don’t read? Not a chance. Unless I’m out in the wilderness and away from my laptop, you know I check out what’s new with Eric and Sean.
If she’s really into your blog, I guarantee you she will find your updates. She’ll put them in a separate folder. She’ll sign up for email updates so they come straight to her inbox. She’ll follow you on Twitter and wait for your tweets about new posts, and if all that fails she’ll come to your website if she hasn’t seen you write anything in a week. If she wants to read your blog, she will make it happen.
On the other hand. if she says she just has too many items in her Google Reader and doesn’t notice yours, She’s Just Not That Into Your Blog.
“I Put It On My To Read List”
Have you ever had this conversation with a “subscriber” -
“Did you see my latest post last week?”
“Oh yeah it was great.”
“Really? You liked it? I worked really hard on it. I think the point about ZenHabits being like a weed was probably the best line.”
“Oh um, well, it’s actually on my todo list in delicious, but I always read them and watch the videos!”
LIES! If I put something on my todo list, I get to it in a couple days. Any longer than that and it’ll go stale, and I probably won’t read it. In fact, if I really enjoy someone’s blog, I don’t even put items on my todo list – I just sit there and do things the old fashioned way – I read the post.
If someone hasn’t read your post in a week, they probably aren’t reading it period. How often do you go back and read posts from a blog that are 2 or 3 weeks old, unless it was a reference post or some kind of tutorial?
Guys, I know it’s hard to hear, but trust me: if she says she’s too busy right now, but your posts are on her “todo” list, She’s Just Not That Into Your Blog.
“I Just Read, I Don’t Comment”
I’ll admit it, I’m guilty of this myself – I don’t always comment here on the Blueprint, but Eric and Sean know I read it. They know because I Stumble it, I Tweet it, I email them feedback, and I make references to their previous posts. I may not always comment here because by the time I watch the videos there are 20 comments and everyone has said everything that needs to be said – but I still make comments and that’s what counts.
Besides I’m the exception, not the rule. Everyone else? They’re the rule. Sure not everyone comments, and that’s fine – but if she says she’s one of your loyal fans, she loves all your posts, and yet isn’t commenting, then something’s not right. You post 5 times a week, and she has no feedback to give you – in the comments, over email, or on twitter? Who reads dozens or hundreds of posts and comes away with no opinions and nothing to say?
I hate to break it to you, but if she hasn’t left a comment in 6 months, She’s Just Not That Into Your Blog
“I Just Haven’t Updated My Blog Roll Lately”
Look, reciprocal linking for SEO is so 2005, but this isn’t about SEO – it’s about mutual respect. I link out and tweet blogs I enjoy reading, and I tell my friends about it. I’m not ashamed to guest post and let people know I think The Blueprint rocks. Is Sean on Eric’s Blogroll? Is Eric on Sean’s? Of course. They’re a team, they back each other up and they each believe in what the other is doing.
We’re all in this together, and we associate with other bloggers we like and respect. Your blogroll defines who you are, and who you believe in and support.
“Really? I Could Have Sworn I Linked To No Pants Friday …”
Links are the currency of the web. Just like a blogroll, they show a certain level of respect – but even more importantly, a link inside a post shows that I trust your writing. It means I trust you enough to tell my readers “Hey, if you like this article, there’s a whole other world of deeper information out there that you might like – and it’s in this post.” I link to the Blueprint all the time in my Twitter microblog and I definitely want to expose my readers and followers to this site.
If she promised you some link love, but you’ve got nothing in your trackbacks, then… (you know what’s coming) – She’s Just Not That Into Your Blog
Thanks Eric and Sean for letting me having some fun and put this out there. If you’re interested in making sure people do get into your blog, there’s no better place than the Blueprint.
If you’re interested in getting people more into you, you might be interested in some personal development and productivity over at SidSavara.com. Wish you could make videos as well as Sean and Eric? Speaking in Public: A Step-By-Step Guide to Overcome Public Speaking Anxiety may be just what you’re looking for.
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